Saturday, July 19, 2014

Top 10 Reasons to Refrain from Seductive Selfies

or,
10 Motivations for Modesty

You catch a glimpse of yourself in the mirror.  Your GORGEOUS self.  Oh, yeah.  
Where's the camera!
But before you post that Instagram and broadcast your fineness to the world, can I give you some reasons to save that pic for someone more special than, say, everyone? 
#10:  Because you are setting yourself up to be compared to every other girl that posts seductive selfies, and chances are, you can't come in first.  That'll probably be some girl at a party in Dubais wearing a $10,000 Talbot-Runhof dress who isn't even allowed to be present at the men's party.

Instead of displaying your wares in a saturated market, in a world where everyone is judging you next to a photoshopped standard of plastic perfection, why not believe that God has made you the perfect you, perfectly designed for ONE man.  Honestly.  You are not God's gift to men, but to you are God's gift to ONE man.  So...save the selfie for his eyes only.

#9:  Because you are more than just a fine body to leer at.

We get it.
You're gorgeous.
God made you that way.

But you also have much, much more to offer, and if all we see is skin, it's hard for people to think clearly about what you are saying as they try not to stare. Some people will stare lecherously at your picture until someone walks into the room where they are surfing the internet.  Some guys will nudge their friends and stare as you walk by in the mall. Some man will watch you from his parked van as you walk into Wal-Mart. And some guys will jerk their heads away when you walk by their families in the restaurant, trying not to notice your gorgeous self in front of their wives.  But you can be sure, if you ever want to contribute something meaningful to a conversation with them, you will have to cover up if you want their brains to kick from the "trying-not-to-look-like-I'm-looking" mode to "wow, this girl is smart" mode. 

#8:  Because one day you may have a little girl who will grow up and be more than just a fine body to stare at.  And if you tell yourself that all you are is a few great curves, someday that's what your old pictures will tell her.  And it'll be really hard for her to hear you say, "Yes, I wore that, but you are NOT going out of this house dressed like THAT--"

#7:  Because you are a trend-setter.  Every girl has the privilege of casting her vote on the current trend by what she slips into in the morning.  You do matter.  If you draw a line, then that is one vote for whatever standard you set.  If you vote for modesty, then you have made it that much easier for other girls to feel comfortable doing the same.  If you walk around naked, then people who see you (after the shock wears off) will be that much less shocked the next time a naked girl walks by.  You really do have the power to choose the fashion, even if you feel like an oddball.  Dressing independently is the mark of an artist!  

#6:  Because people that matter really don't care what you look like.  Really.  They don't.  

People who love you, do so because of YOU, not because of how you are shaped.  If you want to dress modestly, chances are, people are going to be OK with it.  You may even find life easier!  Bosses will appreciate your professionalism.  Nice guys will appreciate being able to treat you like an intelligent person instead of a flirty sex object.  You won't feel as creeped out by the old creeps that like to stare at women they don't know.  And you will actually enjoy not having to constantly pull your shirt up or your skirt down whenever you are talking to someone dressed modestly.  

#5:   Because honestly, you have no idea who sees that picture.  Ugh.  Nuff said.

#4:  Because if you really do look good, you are making a lot of ladies feel rotten.  That might not seem like a big deal to you, but wait until you just had a baby and still look six months pregnant and have had no sleep and look at your Facebook page and see Miss Selfie, pooching her duck face with her cleavage contrasting her tiny tummy, and see if you don't want to smash the screen! :)  

That whole "Do unto others thing..." Be a sweet sister and be nice!

#3: Because that guy you are posting the pic for really isn't worth it.  I don't want to hurt you, but you probably already know it deep down.  If you are afraid that his mind will wander if he doesn't see you puckering in your bathroom, let it go.  Let him go, why hold him back anymore?  Turn away and slam that door!  What you want is a man who will not stop loving you when you DID just have a baby, yet you still look six months pregnant and haven't slept...and if his mind wanders from you now if he doesn't see your body looking luscious on his screen, he is not one you want to count on growing old with.  Now is the beginning of the rest of your life.  Start investing in old age now and don't invest in a loser who will leave you for a hotter selfie.  

#2:  Because you are PRECIOUS!!!!!!!! There never has, or never will, be another you!!! PLEASE know this!  You are gorgeous no matter if you are the gorgeous girl in Dubais with the Talbot-Runhof dress or if you are 312 lbs and abused.  You are a gem whether you've been polished or not, and you were not meant to be treated as a worthless plaything.  

Jesus loves you!! I love you!! And He has a plan for your life that will happen...IF you leave it to Him and  don't help it along with poochie lips and negligee photos.  I don't know what that plan is for you.   I just know there is one. For the LORD God is a sun and shield: the LORD will give grace and glory: no good thing will he withhold from them that walk uprightly.  For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.

#1:  Because there is a guy out there who needs you.  He needs all of you.  He needs to be able to trust you, to be able to look at your timeline and not wonder what kind of girl you really are, just like you need to be able to look at his history and not wonder what kind of guy he is.  

You and that guy are both on a journey, searching for each other.  Sure, you will make mistakes on the way.  Guess what?  He will too.  You will have to learn to trust through the mistakes.  You will have to learn to trust that God has provided grace for every mistake you've ever made.  


For every selfie that you will be ashamed of, there is grace abundant, waiting to turn that pain into something good if it's offered to Jesus.  



For every time your husband will sin against you, you will have to trust that Jesus--who became sin for us even though He knew no sin--has grace to turn your man's stumble into a stepping stone.  But until then, run to Jesus.  In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your paths so that they cross this man's paths at just the right time. He knows how to make your life's blueprint all come together perfectly if you trust Him to handle it. 

And if you have slipped  REAL hard, remember: where sin abounded, grace did much more abound.  I've needed it.  You'll need it.  All God's chilluns need it. 

Cheers for Jesus!